“Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, I’m not going to make it, but you laugh inside – remembering all the times you’ve felt that way.” – Charles Bukowski
We’ve all had those days, the times when we cringed upon waking up, dreading what lay ahead. All we really wanted, actually desperately wanted, in some cases, was to crawl back under the covers and sleep the entire day. That way, we figured, we’d escape that which we most didn’t want to face. Fortunately, at least for most of us, we didn’t give into that temptation. We got up, busied ourselves with our morning routine, and set out to tend to business.
Now, think back to how many times the I really don’t want to get out of bed because I’m just not up to it today thought came to you. What happened when you didn’t give into that fear and instead challenged yourself to get on with life? You wound up getting on with life. The other truism is that you can now look back and laugh at all the times you thought something awful was going to happen and it didn’t. Somehow, call it sheer determination or good decision-making or heartened by the encouragement and support of friends, you made it past the hurdles, overcame the challenges, and discovered that something rather profound had happened: You changed your perspective, your outlook, and that made all the difference in the world.
Not every day will be like this, but a great many of them can be. No matter what the challenge that the day may bring, no matter the disappointments and setbacks and temporary delays, there’s always something to learn, an opportunity to grow, and at least 24 hours in which to set things right. The best part is that tomorrow you get to do it all over again, just in case you’ve learned a few valuable lessons today (the day you dreaded getting out of bed but laughed remembering all those other times you thought that way and everything turned out fine) that you want to pursue tomorrow.
There are really only two choices we face, or two ways of looking at our day. Either we look forward to it with hope – feeling positive about what we’re going to do and/or our efforts to achieve certain goals or make progress toward them, or feeling negative and falling victim to self-pity, defeatism and hopelessness. We have the power of choice. It’s always up to us which way we decide to approach the day. Given the choice – again, it’s always ours – which do we choose?
Maybe this is a hard lesson to learn, since we may be out of practice or don’t think we have learned much or have much to offer. The simplest way to get past this is to keep a journal. Write down whatever it is that we dread so much, whatever problem or issue stands in our way. Next, as the days go by, jot down the approaches we took and the solutions we found that worked. See, there are lessons we’ve learned that help make the next task/project/hurdle/challenge/issue less difficult. This should give us hope and motivate us to smile at the day ahead when we awake. It’s all about a change in perspective. And we hold the keys to doing just that.