“I am learning that if I just go on accepting the framework for life that others have given me, if I fail to make my own choices, the reason for my life will be missing. I will be unable to recognize that which I have the power to change.” – Liv Ullmann, Norwegian actress and film director
We all want to be able to chart our own destiny – and we deserve to. Whether we are in our first days of recovery or have enjoyed several months or years of sobriety, self-reliance is a trait that we need to develop in order to sustain us during periods of opportunity as well as challenge. We can learn from what’s worked for others, but we must adapt successful models to ourselves. In this, we make our own way, construct our own strategies, and craft our own plans for the future. We are building upon our own self-reliance.
Being self-reliant doesn’t mean that we don’t ask for help when we need it. All wise men (and women) know it is good to seek advice and counsel at appropriate times. We can’t be expected to know everything, or exactly what to do in all circumstances. But we can take various factors into account, weigh and balance them, and arrive at a decision on how to think, or act, or what to say. We will be making use of our self-reliance in order to arrive at what is good and right for us in recovery.