‘Love Never Dies’: Finding Peace When You’ve Lost Someone to Addiction

Addiction and death are two of the most difficult and challenging human experiences there are. Yet, when the end does finally come, the death of a child, partner, parent or friend as a result of addiction can feel like the inevitable final chapter of a very long, very sad book: so much still left unwritten, unsaid and unheard that it haunts your sleep and steals your joy.

But what if that wasn’t the end of the story? What if you could tap into the energy of your loved one in spirit and connect with their soul? What if you had the opportunity to find peace in what the person you lost went through and truly forgive them for their choices? What if you could “hear” from them that they forgave you, too, and that they were at peace now, finally? Would you choose to?

healthy-ways-to-work-with-a-medium-01What Is a Medium?

Researchers are divided on the usefulness of psychic readings. For instance, a 2014 study suggests that after-death communication with a loved one who’s passed may help the bereaved move on and heal. But other anecdotal research shows that some people can also become dependent to clairvoyance readings as a way to try to find relief or peace from devastating grief.

Through my work and that of others, I know that mediums can help people to understand the messages their mind doesn’t know how to interpret or that their consciousness can’t allow in. Ultimately, though, a medium can help support awareness, healing and closure for all involved, including people who have died. This healing comes through the energy of love.

Seeing a medium might help you find some peace by enabling you to connect to the foundation of your relationship with your loved one, which is, of course, your love. Sometimes the love you expressed may not have been healthy; perhaps you invested endless time, energy and money into the person struggling with addiction. So much so that you have nothing left for yourself now that they’re gone: no life force energy, no will, no love. Therefore, you may feel an even greater sense of loss, separation and finality when they’ve passed. The key is to find the love again, including the love for yourself and for those that are in spirit. The truth is, the love never ends — it just needs to be rediscovered.

Speaking Spiritually to Your Loved One

'Love Never Dies': Finding Peace When You've Lost Someone to AddictionWhen a medium connects with a loved one in spirit, the message is, generally speaking, all about love. When I do readings I hear that the loved ones who have passed realize not only the pain they caused their family and friends while in their addiction, but also the pain their loved ones are dealing with now that they are dead. The guilt, shame and unbelievable hurt you feel now is something they are able to see and feel now, too. The person who has died is not “stuck” in it, however; but the more stuck we are here, the more they feel it there.

In my experience, those in spirit are extremely apologetic and want nothing more than to share their love with those they’ve left behind. They have a full 360-degree view of every action or inaction from their physical lives. They see clearly now that the fog of addiction is lifted why things were as they were. In my experience, they harbor no anger, resentment or hurt — only love. They see what couldn’t be seen when they were living.

A medium is able to help you get answers to the whys and hows. In doing readings for people who are trying to reach someone who’s died of an overdose or another addiction-related cause, I hear that the person who has passed wants deeply to heal the pain they caused. The challenge then is for you to forgive and heal. The way to do that is through love.

Love Never Dies

Love, we all know, is a force of nature that is bigger than anything — an energy that moves through us all. It is a connection shared with another. It is the light within us. It is our heart connection. And it never dies. No matter how much our pain may trick us into thinking we want to, we cannot control, demand or dissipate love any more than we can control the sun rising each morning. Love lives on in our hearts, memories and stories and especially in our connections to those loved ones who have passed.

Here’s what I would want you to know if you’re mourning a loved one who has died from addiction:

  • Ultimately, you hold the power to heal your heart and connect with your loved ones in spirit. A medium simply helps you translate the messages you haven’t been recognizing.
  • You might not realize it, but you do have a heart connection and love with the person you lost from addiction. Therefore, you are the greatest connection to your loved ones in spirit, not a medium.
  • Be open and ask for the signs from your loved one. They are all around you: butterflies out of season, finding pennies (lots of them), TVs turning on or off on their own, songs on the radio at the perfect times or symbols that were significant to you two (an eagle, a hummingbird, a heart).
  • Always remember that love, regardless of how someone passes, never ends; it just changes form.

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21 Responses to ‘Love Never Dies’: Finding Peace When You’ve Lost Someone to Addiction

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    Giuliana Melo August 3, 2015 at 8:46 am #

    What a great article

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      Sunny Dawn Johnston August 5, 2015 at 9:56 am #

      Thank you so much!

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    AddictionMyth August 3, 2015 at 8:59 pm #

    This article is pretty disturbing. I wouldn’t deny someone their spiritual beliefs in a time of need but such nonsense should not be the basis for public health policy.

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      giuliana melo August 3, 2015 at 9:09 pm #

      “the highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about”- Wayne Dyer

      I have had the privilege of attending many retreats, classes, and courses with Sunny Dawn Johnston.. the work she does is amazing. It is not nonsense. I worked in Healthcare for 31 years. This work has an important place in healing families who are dealing with loss of loved ones to addiction.

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      Sunny Dawn Johnston August 5, 2015 at 9:57 am #

      I appreciate your opinion.

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    Michele August 4, 2015 at 9:42 am #

    What a beautiful, peaceful, loving connection. I love this article. Thank you for sharing

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      Sunny Dawn Johnston August 5, 2015 at 9:58 am #

      Thank you. I appreciate your comment

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    Tara Jack August 4, 2015 at 9:46 am #

    What a beautiful perspective on death through addiction. Thank you Sunny for posting this much needed awareness on this subject. So many suffer when a loved one passes through addiction, guilt, hopelessness & should ofs that they are drowning in a depressed state. Speaking to a medium is not only healing for the ones alive but for the ones that have crossed. Thank you addiction.com for publishing this article

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      Sunny Dawn Johnston August 5, 2015 at 9:58 am #

      Absolutely. Thank you for sharing your insights too.

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        Holly January 24, 2016 at 12:46 pm #

        Hi! Can u help me! I need a medium to help me heal. I have respect for ppl who truly have that gift n help heal families! I want to know info on my two deceased family members! Don’t have a lot of money either. I appreciate if u can help or recomend someone. Thank you. Holly Smith

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    Robin August 4, 2015 at 10:45 am #

    Thank you Sunny for this amazing reminder that the love we share with those in life’s lives on past them leaving this physical form. Many years ago my first husband committed suicide as he struggled with alcoholism and left behind a beautiful daughter. I have watched her struggle over the years with her own value and worth and not understanding why she was no good enough for him to stay in this physical world. It is has been through the love and support of your connection to his spirit that she is now able to feel and understand that although he may have left this world he will never leave her heart!! I am so grateful to you and the message that love never ends!! Namaste’

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      Sunny Dawn Johnston August 5, 2015 at 10:00 am #

      I am happy that she has been able to move through her loss and pain. Thank you for sharing.

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    Marci C August 4, 2015 at 10:45 am #

    I’m Marci and I am a grateful, recovered addict and alcoholic. My sobriety date is 11/9/96. As a recovered addict myself, I find this article to be empowering and uplifting for those that may suffer from the delusion that their loved one’s passing may somehow have been prevented or their fault. Sunny offers heartfelt soul-utions to those that are suffering from this horrendous disease and all those affected by it. Her connection to Spirit is real and offers comfort and peace to everyone she touches. Through unconditional love, Sunny teaches that we ALL have the ability to connect with our loved ones and that healing really begins within … most importantly, that the LOVE NEVER ENDS. I am so very grateful for the messages of love, hope and healing that she brings into this world everyday. May you find comfort and hope through her message as well.

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      Sunny Dawn Johnston August 5, 2015 at 10:00 am #

      Thank you for sharing your experience. Almost 20 years.. Amazing and good for you!!!

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    Amy Melissa Richmond August 4, 2015 at 12:07 pm #

    Addiction and death are probably some of the hardest things we go through as physical beings, whether it be ourselves and/or other loved ones. Witnessing the pain and struggle can be heartbreaking. This article written by Sunny Dawn Johnston gives us another perspective and another way of seeing things and how we can begin to learn to heal our hearts and to feel that love connection with those who have passed. Great information and tools here to help us begin our journey to healing our hearts and the love that never dies…

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      Sunny Dawn Johnston August 5, 2015 at 10:01 am #

      Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your comments:)

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    Chandra August 5, 2015 at 11:25 am #

    Addiction, in my experience, is one of the most painful diseases there is. This article was a wonderful reminder than Love conquers all and that, no matter how much pain we (or our loved ones) are in, Love is always at the core and that will never change. Knowing that I can still have a loving relationship with my father and that his addiction was just a manifestation of pain that he is no longer experiencing in Spirit is extremely comforting. This article really offers a beautiful perspective.

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    Tamara J August 10, 2015 at 7:37 pm #

    As a Licensed Psychotherapist and mental health provider for health insurance companies and crisis teams, I have more and more clients approach me grieving the death of a loved one and asking my opinion about Mediumship. I found this article helpful because it introduces Mediumship to people in a way that is in alignment with what my grieving clients are seeking.
    I will be directing my clients here to addiction.com to read this article and for more comprehensive information about addiction.
    Thank you!

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    Aurelio Seymore September 1, 2015 at 9:48 pm #

    What if you had the opportunity to find peace in what the person you lost went through and truly forgive them for their choices?

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    Sherrie January 30, 2016 at 2:15 pm #

    I think we each need to find comfort in those things that speak most to our hearts. My son died one week ago from complications of heroin/alcohol addiction. I am inconsolably bereft. I alternate between weeping and wailing, and finding comfort in the fact that he is no longer in pain, physical, emotional, and spiritual. He was my only child with whom my relationship could be intense – and our love is unending. I had 32 years to love him and to bargain for his life from God or Whomever or Whatever. My son died in spite of my pleading to spare him.

    I don’t know where I stand on religion, but I do know that my son and I loved each other fiercely, and in the week since his death, there have been signs, if you will, that he is trying to comfort me from the great beyond, for lack of a better term. I can’t say if it’s my brain trying to make sense of the finality of death through the development of a coping mechanism, but whatever it is, I so need to feel in touch with him. Losing my son hurts in ways that I never dreamed a person could survive. I miss him beyond expression. I am angry that he could not kick his addiction. I am resentful for those who continue in their addiction and yet live to ripe old ages. I am terrified that my grief will destroy me.

    If believing that my son is speaking to me from the plenum of the Universe, let me have that, until I am comforted enough to move on. Mediums? Again, if it comforts someone, no harm, no foul.

    I’m a psych major and I am working through the grief as best I can. I haven’t even had his Celebration of Life ceremony yet, and yesterday marked one week since his passing. I keep asking him to show me a sign that his Spirit lives on, that’s he’s safe, that he’s happy and healthy. In my irrational grief, I need to “know”…

    I accept the serenity for the things I cannot change, accept the courage for the things I can change, and I work toward the wisdom to “KNOW” the difference.

    May each of us find peace through the universal mechanisms that help us uniquely.

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    johny April 26, 2016 at 3:50 am #

    what will be easiest way to get rid of all addiction? can anyone tell me ?

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