“It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.” – Marlene Dietrich, German-American actress and singer
Truer words were never spoken. When we are in recovery, we quickly learn the value of true friendship. It’s when we cannot sleep and toss about with anguished guilt or remorse or unremitting cravings that we most need the support of our friends. That these friends may be lifelong ones, or new acquaintances that we meet in the 12 step support group rooms doesn’t matter. What does matter, and matter incredibly, is that true friends will always be there for us. They accept us for who we are, who we want to be, not who we were in the past. They don’t condemn us for our failures. Rather, they seek to lift us up in our time of need, to listen when we need to talk, and to offer their unstinting friendship whenever we feel the need for it. Value each and every one of your friends, those you have now as well as those you will continue to make. In recovery, the importance of friendship can never be overstated. When we reach the point where we feel more self-confident, we can then reach out to extend our friendship to those who are new to recovery – and in desperate need of a friend.