“Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching forward.” – Henry Ford, prominent American industrialist and founder of the Ford Motor Company
Some days in recovery are good and other days are just the opposite. Some days are somewhere in-between. For those of us who struggle to deal with frequent or infrequent setbacks, especially in early recovery, it may often seem as if we’re swimming against the tide – a few precious feet of gains here followed by equal or more feet lost. What we need to remind ourselves is that we are human beings, all of whom are confronted with daily experiences that either challenge or defeat us. Even if we choose to do nothing, we are making a choice – and it’s not a good one. The only way to overcome setbacks is to push on, to revise what didn’t work and make it better, to seek help where and when we need counsel, to listen to the encouragement of others who know and love us and wish us well.
Think of our goal: to live a happy and productive life in long-term recovery. In order to achieve this lifelong goal, we must be up to the challenge of what life brings our way. If we find that we feel uncomfortable or ill-prepared in one area, find assistance to help us become more proficient or adept. Each success adds to our bank of self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance, and hope for the future. We may not have the immediate answer or solution to whatever comes our way, but we will have a process that works and is effective.