“Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgement of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you’re going to do about it.” – Kathleen Casey Theisen, author
When we first made the decision to get clean and sober, we had to face some awful truths about ourselves. High on the list was acceptance of the fact that we had an addiction or dependence on a substance or behavior that was not only unhealthy for us but was leading to incredible damage to others whom we love and care about.
This did not come easy for us – it never does. The reality is that we who are in recovery have been masters at self-deception, of pulling the wool over the eyes of everyone around us, and ourselves included. “Who, me? I’m not addicted”– we so often said to others. “No, I don’t have a problem.”
But, of course, we did have a problem. Learning to accept ourselves for all that we have done is part of our long-term recovery. Acceptance is not giving up. When we accept the reality of our situation, we can begin to deal with it in constructive ways. We are able to craft a plan for our recovery that will allow us to work toward the realization of our dreams. Acceptance is the first step. It must be followed by action.